Stuck debating how to fix something? I’ve got two suggestions
Thanks for being a part of GRIP’s international launch. It was a great week! The book’s now a #1 New Release on Amazon.
Whether you’re doing stuff around the house, making a major purchase, or taking on a project at work: when considering what steps to take, we often weigh the final result heavily. And when you have a choice to make as a group, it can get complicated fast.
Today: two suggestions to help move things along.
How much does it matter to me?
In the heat of the moment, it’s easy to lose sight of what matters. How invested are you in this issue? If someone asks your opinion, you’ll of course give it. Should the new logo be red or green? Before you know it, you’re deep into a debate.
When you find yourself in this situation, ask: On a scale of 1 to 10, how much is really at stake here for me? The number itself isn’t as important as the new perspective you get from coming up with it.
If it turns out to be a key point for everyone, then an in-depth discussion is worth the trouble. But if it’s only a priority for one person? Simply go with their suggestion and move on.
Are we looking for a quick fix or a solution that lasts?
Disagreements over a solution can stem from the timeframe you have in mind. Especially if you haven’t made that timeframe explicit. Makes sense then that you can’t reach an agreement. For one party, the proposal feels meager or mediocre; for the other, it seems unnecessarily complex or costly.
Your standards for a cabin for a weekend getaway are different from those for a temporary rental you’ll need for a few months while waiting to move into a new home. And when you’re looking for a place to live for 5 or 10 years, you’re sure to have different considerations still.
Hit an impasse? Try clarifying the timeframe. Are you looking for a temporary patch? A quick fix for a critical issue? Or a solution that will last for a year or more. Once you agree on the expiration date, you’re one step closer to finding a solution that everyone can get behind.
Have a good week,
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